I appreciate the info. It's been a while and I've found a couple of things. Number one I definately have an open diff box, despite it leaving twin marks on the grass that I did the slip test on but all other indications prove open diff e.g. jack the car up and spin the wheel look for the other one and just general feel on the road would all lead to the conclusion that the car is open diff, not necessarily a bad thing still handles like its on rails but I'll upgrade later.
Secondly after I replaced the clutch master and slave and bled it properly the clutch now feels a lot stiffer and also seems to have fixed the problem of having to wait a year in going from 1st to 2nd. There is still a crunch if you really snap second but it'll go in and you could do a smoking start if I wasn't kind to the box. But you can still tell that the synchro is worn.
I've spoken to people about the redline oil and they all say that while its a band-aid oil it'll solve the synchro problem. I might price it up against royal purple which I know is nectar of the gods. I'm just weighing up keeping the box and fixing it or finding an LSD one somewhere, a few have come up for $1600 or so which isn't that expensive really.
I will be looking to change the gearstick and bushings shortly. Thanks to the generous MrKrazyee I have a gear stick that hasn't had a hacksaw attack it.