I think people are confusing hub centric rings and hub centric spacers....
Hub Centric Rings align a non-standard rim to the hub of the car so the wheel is centered true and reduces the stress on the studs.
Hub Centric Spacers space the wheel out to change the offset and can apply additional loads to the studs. (However they are still a much better thing to use then NON-hub centric spacers).
If your wheel shop it telling you not to use hub centric rings, I would go find another place that knows what they are talking about....