UPDATE:
Been driving for about 500kms+ now on ATF DEXRON III as recommended by Falcon.
Downshifting into 3rd is much better, it's SLIGHTLY notchy, but bearable in most cases indeed.
I'm having issues upshifting into 2nd though. When I rev past 4000rpm or so, and try get into second, it's very tough to get into. If I rev out all the way to 6/7000rpm and try powershift to 2nd, forget it, it WILL GRIND.
YES, I am depressing the clutch fully.
YES, I am keeping it depressed till I shift into 2nd, then letting go of said clutch.
I tried WAITING (although I shouldn't have to) for the revs to fall into the right spot for 2nd gear, but it STILL struggles to engage without minor grinds and notchiness, it will only engage till revs are 1.5k rpm ish where 2nd gear WOULD be at said speed. Of course that means when I let the clutch out by that point, then the engine will have to compensate for the low revs and bump it up to whatever will match the road speed on 2nd gear. *sigh*
It's just stupid.
I don't know what to do, might have to get a different gearbox. I'll finish up this tank of fuel and hit 1,000kms and see how I go.
Big thanks to Falcon!