Well if it's a bhg, the load @ idle may not be enough for it to overheat. Best way 2 really know is to drive it & give it some boost.
As for sitting, mine was dead on 85C for 1.5hrs on idle even with a cracked block & bhg. Stock gauge won't move till over 100C anyway.
As for him saying to use green, I'm honestly shocked such a Toyota enthusiast would say such a thing. Should be red. Green won't cause immediate problems, mainly in the long term. Green coolant isn't the problem, but it's not right.